Updated: Nov 18
THE GIVING OF WEDDING GIFTS
The giving of wedding gifts is a ceremonial gift exchange and has been around for centuries and is a way of wishing a couple a great life together.
When your mind turns to wedding gifts, it would have been usual to find a place to select a bundle of gifts that you may not have, but as most people have lived with each other for some time before they marry nowadays, asking for cash is just fine. Also with the fact that we are set to lose so many shops and businesses over the next year thanks to Covid, I personally would be avoiding using anyone place and definitely, I would avoid asking for vouchers too.
To ensure that your guests do not lose their money during the gift buying process, I would definitely be turning your mind on asking for cash and there are many ways that this can be done.
Of course, etiquette suggests that no one should ask for gifts, so what we are suggesting is that “if your mind were on a gift” you can express a preference of cash over presents for those that want to give and in many ways, it’s becoming an accepted logic for attendees to consider the cost of their presence when deciding the scale of their presents.
There are a few poems you can use here:
WEDDING GIFT POEMS
The most important gift to us,
is to have you share our day.
But should you wish to contribute,
in some other way.
Then to help us on our honeymoon,
in our chosen paradise.
A little extra spending money,
would be really nice.
Our life has already begun,
We have almost everything under the sun.
If you were thinking of buying a gift,
A little extra money would give us a lift.
But most importantly we request,
You share our day as our wedding guest.
Now that we have saved you from any fuss,
We can't wait for you to celebrate with us.
We know it's not traditional,
And not the way it’s done.
But rather than a wedding list,
We’d love a bit of sun.
So if you would like to give a gift,
And send us on our way.
A donation to our honeymoon,,
Would really make our day.
Then whilst we are relaxing on the beach or by the pool,
We’ll sit back and know that it is really thanks to you.
HOW TO GET THE PHYSICAL CASH!
You could either have envelopes on the day or ask to pop in the card (very popular with Asian weddings already)
Give them your PayPal account details (make sure you ask for a Family/Friends payment)
Provide them with a special bank account
Ask for a contribution towards your ‘honeymoon’ fund, which many people find less clinical, but in reality, you don’t need to spend it all on the honeymoon*
*Its worth noting that whilst there are many wedding websites for gifting your honeymoon just be mindful how much they charge to set it up and of course the fees that they charge.
This financial contribution is definitely a factor on what you can consider as a budget whilst working out your honeymoon or even wedding costs. The downside is that you just don’t how much someone will give you.
Normally the closer they are to you the more they tend to give, the more expensive your wedding it’s likely to receive more however if they are struggling financially then you should expect less.
I would estimate that if you have 100 guests, you could be quite safe thinking you would get around £1500-2,000. If its a small wedding on a budget for 100, then you could expect £1,000.
Personally if someone was to suggest, especially after Covid, that you both realise how precious life is and that you want to enjoy as many experiences together as possible and for that reason you would love to have some money to enjoy what life has to offer, that is definitely something I would be happy to put in quite hefty for.
We feel that this is the best way to ensure that your gift is used in the most beneficial for you whilst ensuring that every penny of your guests hard earned money has no wastage.